What Do You Want?
No growth or success happens without some level of discomfort.
But the right kind of goal setting can be profoundly powerful in creating a drive force and discipline that takes you from where you are now to what you really want.
You might have heard about SMART goals?
Motivation always goes in waves, and usually you set a goal and start when you are on a high tide of motivation.
But because growth is slightly uncomfortable, a strong sense of commitment is needed. Unless you find this intrinsic commitment to your goal you are most likely going to fall back once your motivation goes back to low tide. And it always does.
It’s important to ensure that your goal is SMART so that you know exactly what you are committing to. To understand why, let’s break each part.
With non-specific goals you will get non-specific outcomes.
- “Lose weight” is too vague. How much, what size do you want to fit into? Is it weight loss or improved body composition you are after?
- “Be healthier” is not specific enough. What does it mean to you to be healthy? What do you need to feel or see to know you are there?
On top of this, you unconscious mind takes everything very literal, so your goal needs to be stated in a positive language.
So make sure it is something you do want, not something you don’t want.
What we don’t measure we can’t manage, so data collection is important.
What metrics do we need to track in order to know that you are progressing?
- If the goal is weight loss, you will have to weight yourself.
- If the goal is body composition, we might need to add tape measurements, body fat readings and photos.
- If the goal is health, we might need to do a blood work to see what your hormone panel says and then retake it in a few months.
Has this been done by anyone before you?
- If the answer is yes, we know that it is possible.
Your goal needs to be a bit out of your comfort zone but not too far away either.
- If it’s soo close to where you’re now, you will likely get bored and not change.
- If it’s too far away from where you are, you might feel overwhelmed and not take action.
- If it scares you and makes you excited at the same time, it’s probably a great distance away.
Once you reach your goal, you can set another goal that is in a good distance from where you are.
- Time Bound
This part is one of the most crucial part in goal setting.
Because growth happens outside your comfort zone, there needs to be a specific time for you to focus on. Without a deadline for your goal, eventually you will find reasons (read excuses) to fall back into the comfort zone.
So pull out your calendar and set a date and make a commitment to do your best until that date. I recommend something that is 3-6 months away, depending on what you SMART goal is.
But I also want to add that this goal of yours also need to me inspiring and motivating for you. The goal needs to be your desire, and not the desire to please anyone else.
For example, you don’t want to lose weight so that your partner finds you more attractive. The reason for it should be that you want to feel more confident in your own skin.
I say it again, you want the reason for your goal to be for you, not anyone else.
Others might benefit from it, but you will not be successful AND feeling successful if you don’t do the work for yourself first.
If you are struggling to set SMART goals, send me a message and we’ll schedule in a free consultation.